| Re: Alright brothers. I need advice |
Subject: Re: Alright brothers. I need advice by vetteblondie on 2009/11/21 4:21:59 I'm sure I'll be out of place here being a woman and all, especially and old one who is 'open minded' about a lot of things including sex and relationships but.... Didn't you say you were 27 almost? So..... that means you are a grown man. Don't give a crap what others think, this is about YOU - not them. If it were, they'd be the ones contemplating dating/screwing/keeping good company with her. You are both adults, don't worry so much about it and simply ASK or TELL what you think/want. Enjoy the company, show us some good pics, have fun most of all and if something happens, fine, if it don't - fine. If it's sex, fine you're grown you can handle it. And so is she. And, contrary to popular belief - not all women are 'emotionally attached and expect/need a relationship' from sex or otherwise. I've been single for four years. Sure I've dated, and one was serious, the minute his shit started staying her I got freaked and out he went. I like my space and don't like a leash. Maye one day the right one will show up and we'll meet in the middle but I'm not looking for it. Set in my ways I suppose. I do not like having someone up my butt 24/7 and into my biz and bank account. Sure help with car repairs and stuff is nice but I dont' like cleaning up after sloppy men, refuse to share a bathroom with one, and as far as car repairs, well I can do most of those myself. Don't get me wrong, I don't sit home, but I'm enjoying my freedom and 'relearning' who I am after two divorces. There wont' be a third. I can't afford it for one and two, I simply find it hard to trust a man. The first one I really loved but he ended up being a wife-beating crack addict a year later, the second was a cop who couldn't keep a job and lied a lot. Others I dated and got decently serious with ended up being cheaters and treated me like shit. Screw it - I'll just date, not be serious and just enjoy life and have fun. You are single and young and healthy - there's noting wrong with having a 'friend with benefits' if it comes to that and I'm sure she's mature enough to handle it. Those are nice. You can have a 'sort of' relationship with out the committment and fussy-wussiness yet still get out with one another, enjoy each other's company, have sex or whatever and not be all messed up about it. I have learned the hard way recently with three family losses in one week - life is tooooooooo short - enjoy every moment you can and don't give a shit about what others think so long as you are happy and not hurting anyone. Remember - your life will pass you by one day - make sure it's worth watching. And, if she's a hottie - post pics!  |
