Subject: Re: 21 MAR 20 by GRIS on 2020/3/22 0:33:52
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Matatk wrote: Neighbor boy is 17 years old now. Great kid, very smart and polite. I used to babysit him when he was little. They do grow up fast. The other day he was struggling to put a new off-road bumper on his Jeep. Told the old man to have him come over today. So he came and got me this afternoon and with a little experience and a couple of my tools we were able to get it swapped out with little trouble and only a few swear words. I showed him how and let him do most of the work. Eager to learn and no arguing. How do I teach my kids to do that?
I'M NOT SURE YOU TEACH THEM, JUST LET THEM BE WHO THEY'RE GOING TO BE. KEEP A LOOSE REIN, DON'T MICROMANAGE, DON'T HOVER. MAKE RULES FOR BEHAVIOR SIMPLE AND CLEAR. PAT THEM WHEN THEY DO WELL, SWAT THEM WHEN THEY ARE BAD. INSOFAR AS YOU CAN WITHOUT DOING THEM DAMAGE, LET THEM SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES OF THEIR ACTIONS.
PERSONALITIES ARE BUILT ON TEMPERAMENT AND EXPERIENCE. TEMPERAMENT IS MOSTLY HEREDITARY, SO YOU'VE ALREADY DONE THAT PART ;-) YOU HAVE LESS CONTROL OVER THEIR EXPERIENCE THAN YOU THINK. THAT'S KINDA A ROLL OF THE DICE ONCE THEY START TO SCHOOL AND START TO DEAL WITH SOCIETY.
