| Re: and again |
Subject: Re: and again by bogus on 2009/7/12 19:04:36 Hey, Prozac, take a deep breath... Here is what I am reading: I am pissed. I am angry. I feel dumped on. I hate you. I hate the world. Fuck them all. Now... anyone willing to bet you are PROJECTING that attitude? It's one thing to be confident about what you are doing and can do. But it's another to be an absolute arrogant asshole about it. You need to take that deep breath, tone down the attitude. Warranted or not, it will give the other party a sense of entitlement and you will never get ahead with that perception. Update your resume and include your military duty. Trust me on this, in FL it will help. A lot. Also realize this one sad reality, and you will do a lot better: The world is full of incompetent assholes. They don't like being reminded they ARE incompetent assholes. You have to suck it up and deal with them the best way possible. If you get the reputation of clashing with people because you view them as incompetent assholes, you will get the reputation of being difficult to work with and you will be one of the first to go. In short, this type of attitude becomes a self fulfilling prophesy of failure. And every time you fail because of those assholes, it will be way to easy to blame them for your errors. As having done my share of supervising, I get tired of hearing how it's ALWAYS someone Else's fault. At some point, it has to be their fault. I interviewed for a position with State government about 15 years ago. The director was a very attractive and well educated black woman. When I did my first interview, it was with a team and I NAILED it. It was my job to lose. I had a 2nd interview with the director lady. She was very stern and had to find question with many things... Her first comment was that this was a "state job with these benefits..." I gently pointed out that I was currently a state employee (meaning, she never ready my application/resume). She then asked me about my references. I indicated that my supervisors name and phone number was listed with each job position. I used that format for all state applications. She then said "you don't indicate if we can call or not, so please create a reference list." I sat there and dutifully wrote out, on a legal pad, my references. I couldn't get out of that place fast enough. She was a total control freak bitch. She only hired yes-men and anyone who clashed with her was gone. Or treated like shit. She lasted about 3 more years, before she clashed with the Governor. That was the end of her. I found out that they never filled that position under her leadership. Apparently, all the applicants were incompetent assholes. Well... that wasn't true, but her attitude made it true. Just think about where your attitude is going and you might find some answers. |
