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brut | **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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Long story short....for the past 2 months my wife found a "new friend" that she became very close to. He is also married but having problems as we have. She refused to remove herself from that relationship regardless of my begging and crying. She "realized" after 8 years of marriage that she loved me but was not "in love" with me.
So we decided yesterday that it would best to get a divorce. SO today I have been moving out of our $200,000 home into a bedroom at my brothers. Man reality sucks when it kicks in. I will be forced to sell two of the vettes. I am going to try to keep the '71 and part with the other two. Anyway, sorry I haven't been around at all the last couple months. A lot has occupied my mind and none of it was about vettes. |
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Posted on: 2009/3/12 19:10
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bogus | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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oh, dude... I am so sorry.
I wish you the best. Call if you want. |
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Posted on: 2009/3/12 19:16
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red_johnny | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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Damn man, very sorry to hear this. I hope that things turn around for the better for you quickly.
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Posted on: 2009/3/12 19:21
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pianoguy | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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Jeez, sorry to hear that, man - mojo to ya, and keep your chin up.
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Posted on: 2009/3/12 19:32
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BrianCunningham | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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Sorry to hear, best of luck
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Posted on: 2009/3/12 19:49
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Matatk | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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Wow, I'm very sorry to hear that. Best of luck to you, and hopefully you can work things out. Always here if you need an ear.
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Posted on: 2009/3/12 19:51
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TommyT-Bone | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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Right now I'm sure it's tough to see a sunny side but believe me, there is a sunny side. One day at a time brut. Just look forward don't look back. Feel free to pm me anytime you need to let some thoughts go.
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Posted on: 2009/3/12 20:35
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CentralCoaster | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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So... she doesn't love you anymore, but she still loves your belongings?
Show no mercy dude. What did each of you have before the marriage, and what do you think she is entitled to now? And if she's a house wrecker, does that change anything legally or emotionally? What's the other guy's wife look like? It might be friendly now, but after all the cards fall, you might start having regrets about being the nice guy. Maybe I'm jumping to conclusions, but I recall when my parents separated and there was absolutely no balance at all. One got all the shit and didn't work, the other worked, and lived on peanuts and is still in debt from it. |
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Posted on: 2009/3/12 20:38
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Mekanic | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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Brut, feel free to PM me if you want man. I've VERY recently went through this.
My wife of 9 years left me in January after spending a wonderful weekend together, completely out of the blue. Its a simply amazing amount of pain. Seriously, toss me a PM and I'd be happy to give you my # if you need someone to talk to who has been through it recently. Hell, whats halfway between IN and FL? |
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Posted on: 2009/3/12 20:46
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brut | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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Dude my Dad lives in St. Pete! Maybe I need to make a visit!
Thanks everyone for the support! It's been real tough but I am trying to look at the positive sides if there are any. |
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Posted on: 2009/3/12 21:15
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mikeV | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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I went thru this deal a while ago... Love you but not in love with you. Married 17 years. WHAT?. While the initial shock sucks you will prevail... Get a good attorney and keep on living. While it does sting for a while it gets much better. Kept my home and possesions
DO NOT SELL YOUR CARS!! PM if you want Keep your head up |
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Posted on: 2009/3/12 21:42
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Durango_Boy | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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Chris I'm so sorry to hear about what's going on. Glad you have a place to go and people backing you up. You have my number, feel free to call and chat, and next time I'm in Louisville I'll make sure we go out for a bite and a beer or five. I don't believe in pre-destined occurrences but I do believe that things happen for a reason. Not only will you come out ON TOP of all of this but you will be better off and your life will feel more fulfilled than it has in a long time. Grew up under TWO divorces on my Mom's side and one on my Dad's. They are all much better off with their current partners and while it was hard on everyone when it happened it's a good thing it did.
Take care, stay in touch, and I hope to see you next time I'm in the area. Glad to see you're keeping a C3. |
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Posted on: 2009/3/12 21:45
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C4DERF | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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brut,
No matter how many give advice it is an experience you have to deal with pertty much on your own. Now with that said there is a very large support group for you right here in the guru family. No matter what course you take your first step should be contacting a lawyer to protect your rights as the victim. If there are children that can make decissions very tough. My son has been dealing with a divorce for the past 18 months or so and he still can not get past the fact that his ex did what she did behind his back. I do suggest that if you are a religous man to pray and seek counsle. We are here for you and I know I'll pray for you. DO NOT become a hermit!!! |
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Posted on: 2009/3/12 21:53
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joeld | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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Sorry about that crap news! Good luck.
Not trying to be rude, but try to protect what you've worked for all these years. Joel |
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Posted on: 2009/3/12 22:16
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Epimax | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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I'm so sorry...
You'll be in my thoughts and prayers.. Hang in there, it WILL get better...I know.. David |
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Posted on: 2009/3/13 11:06
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crash | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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BEST OF LUCK ON YOUR PROBLEM. IT DOES GET BETTER. IVE BEEN THERE TWICE AND BOTH TIMES I THOUGHT IT WAS THE END OF MY WORLD. THEN I MET ROSIE AND A NEW WORLD BEGAN. WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED ALMOST 30 YRS AND HAVE BECOME THE BEST OF FRIENDS AND HUSBAND AND WIFE. DO GET A GOOD ATTORNEY AND DONT FALL APART. ITS ONE DAY AT A TIME AND AS TIME GOES BY THE HURT LESSENS AND YOU RELIAZE THAT THERE IS STILL A LIFE TO BE HAD. BY ALL MEANS KEEP AT LEAST ONE VETTE. THAT WILL BE YOUR THERAPY. BEST OF LUCK BRUT. I DONT KNOW OF WHAT HELP I CAN BE. IF YOU WANT TO PM ME AND TALK IM HERE.
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Posted on: 2009/3/13 11:43
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skirlin | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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Been there, Done that. I agree completely with CentralCoaster, I was a nice guy and in the end PAID for it. My heart goes out to you. I am now remarried and have been with my wife for over 18 years. Please keep at least one of the vettes, personalize the plate to read 'BITE ME'. I'm sure there are many here that have stories to share, so rant if you need to, we understand.
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88BlackZ51 | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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Sorry to hear about your latest news.
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Posted on: 2009/3/13 13:07
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Curtis1974 | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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Hang in there man! Life has a funny way of telling you things. This must be for a reason. Certainly keep one of the Corvettes so you can pick up some young cuties now..........
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Posted on: 2009/3/13 13:31
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Sweet90 | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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Sorry to hear that. The one thing I'll never get is
she's an adulteress and you have to leave your house, lose your cars and God knows what else for something you didn't even do. Get a good lawyer, I mean a shark, it should be her ass on the curb not yours. Good luck Jim |
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Posted on: 2009/3/13 14:46
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JDSWHITE93 | Re: **PERSONAL** Sorry I haven't been around.... | ||
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This might sound harsh but if you move out you are out of your fucking mind. I once had a finace and we lived together and when shit went sour I played the role of dumbass quite well. She wanted time alone blah blah all bullshit. She had a married boyfriend. I left all of my shit and NEVER again will I ever do something so fucking stupid. I wouldn't go anywhere WTF why should you move ? Pull your emotions out of it. I've been married now for almost 9 years and IF my wife ever pulls some shit like this it will become a game to see how far I can stick it up her ass before I break it off. Get an attorney and don't do a damned thing until you talk to one including moving out. I wish you the best of luck I really do but usually when shit goes sour one person ends up being the fool, it doesn't need to be you. Good luck !!
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